and baby, your love is gonna change me

Today's song: Haven't Met You Yet by Michael Buble

So far in my life, I've realized that I definitely read into things too much. Not all the time, but a good majority of it. As with most things in life, this can be both good and bad. About 90% of the time, I'd put it in the bad category but on days like today, I kind of like that about myself. I went to the YMCA to get my work out on (yay me!) and ran into this girl who has been friends with my brother since they were in grade school together...and that was forever ago. But we got to talking and were asking each other about how things are going, how's school, how's summer, are you dating anybody, etc. When I answered that last question with "No, I recently broke up with somebody", her face almost lit up and she responded with "No way! Me too! And I'm enjoying being single so much!" and I have to say, I admire her. Not that being in a loving relationship with somebody can be a wonderful, beautiful thing. Of course it can.

But ever since me and my ex-boyfriend broke up at the end of the school year, it's just been this awful negative thing looming over me. And if you tell anybody that you're just recently out of a relationship, you get the look. You know what I'm talking about - that sympathetic, almost patronizing look like "Ohhh you must be devastated". At first, yes of course I was devastated. But after a certain period of time, once you realize that maybe this just wasn't meant to be, you have to move on. And maybe thinking about being single as a positive thing is the way to go! 

I mean, why shouldn't being single be fun? Not that you have to slut yourself around town or anything along those lines, but we all deserve a little fun! A little flirting, a little "me" time. It's good for us all. And having hope. I usually hate that word because people overuse it and it's just thrown around in so many situations that it loses its power, kind of like love. I think it is important though - in every aspect of your life - including relationships. I truly believe that there is someone out there for everybody. It might take you years and years to find your other half, but I believe it will happen to everyone who is open to it. I think it's great to enjoy the single life, and to have hope for your future. It's not necessary to run out and find yourself your next relationship. But the dream of one is always a nice thing to have. It's like in You Got Mail when Meg Ryan's character realizes that her relationship isn't what it used to be and that both parties have fallen out of love with each other. It's a very adult breakup in my opinion and a great example of people being able to part ways without any animosity and I love it. But her (now ex) boyfriend asks her if there's someone else and she replies "No...but there is the dream of someone else". I love that line.

See what I mean about thinking too much into things? A simple conversation with someone can set me off on a life-advice rant. I just can't help myself though!

Thanks for reading

Love,

Rachel

p.s. I'll leave you with another quote, written by one of my favorite authors (Jane Austen), that I absolutely love. Perhaps it will provide you with your very own kind of hope for what you have waiting for you in your future..."There could have been no two hearts so open, no tastes so similar, no feelings so in unison, no countenances so beloved."